Vigilante Katy

So I know I’ve told you guys about my recent obsession with handicap parking spaces.

I’d like to say that there’s been some improvement in this area, but that would be a lie. If anything, I’ve become more aggravated by the whole thing. Everywhere I look, I see people parking in loading zones, blocking ramps with their cars, or non-vans using van spots when there are plenty of other spots available.

So the other day when I saw that someone had parked their SUV in such a way as to completely block the graded entrance to the local gas station, I snapped. I whipped out my cell phone and took a picture. Please don’t ask me what I thought I was going to do with that picture–I had no idea–but I felt better having documented the offense.

A few days later I met bicycle man, and that’s when things started rolling down hill in the wacko department. You see, Charlie’s Feldenkrais lady works in the French Quarter. If you’ve never been to New Orleans, the French Quarter is like an old European city with narrow street and not nearly enough parking. It was built, ya know, pre-car. Around the corner from the Feldenkrais studio are the only two handicap spots in the area.

With only two spots, you can imagine it’s hard to get a chance to actually park in them. Well, last Friday I couldn’t find a place to park anywhere. I didn’t have money for the garage, there were several broken meters, and since it was a gorgeous day in the middle of tourist season, there were people everywhere.

So I dropped Charlie off and proceeded to circle around looking for a place. That’s when bicycle man appeared. He biked up to the his van that was legally parked in a handicap spot. He got off the bike, folded it up, and then loaded it into the back of his van. Then he drove off.

I was incredulous. I mean, he had a handicap license plate, but was this man actually handicapped? He had the strength and vitality to both ride a bicycle and load it into his van. I figured it was just one of those things. It wasn’t

The next week the very same van was parked there again. This time I found a spot, but rather than going into Charlie’s appointment, I hung around waiting to see if bicycle man would appear–and  he did. Again he rode his bike, folded and loaded it himself. I did it again with the camera–took a couple of pictures. Again, not knowing why, but feeling better for documenting the event.

I was recounting this story at lunch later, and my Dad said, “well, he still might have been disabled.”

And I mean, he’s right. The man could have had a prosthetic leg or something, but it got be wondering about the bigger issue–what do we, as a society, think of as disabled, and is that reflected in our current policies regarding handicap parking spaces? For me, it’s directly related to walking distance–how far am I going to have to haul Charlie and is it worth it? If we’re taking the chair it’s less of an issue, but for places like the supermarket or Target, it’s nice to be able to park and then use a cart when we get inside.

But my definition isn’t the same as everyone else’s–mine is colored by my own experience. We all define it differently. A person who breaks their ankle is considered disabled in Louisiana and gets a one-year pass. I broke my ankle when I was thirteen and never would have considered myself disabled. There’s a boy at Charlie’s school with a broken leg and he’s also got a one year pass.

When I find myself, yet again, parking in a regular spot. Or worse yet, when I see an elderly person limping painfully across a parking lot. I think that if we can’t find accessible parking for Charlie who is the quintessential definition of disabled, then who is getting the spots? I could count on one hand the number of times I’ve seen someone with a wheelchair using a handicap spot. Actually, I think I’ve seen it once.

So what do you guys think? Are there just too many disabled people and not enough spots? Do we need more spots? Are we overly-generous with our definition of the word? Do you think there’s a lot of tag abuse? I’d love to know your thoughts. . .

Boy in wheelchair looking off into distance

This was gonna be a great shot--and then he spotted the bus.

Handicap Parking Etiquette

Somebody found my blog while searching for “Handicap Parking Etiquette.” I thought this was SUCH a good topic–especially since even people in my own family are confused by the rules.  I’m going to share some of my thoughts and then if you have something to add, please go ahead and leave it in the comments.

  1. Don’t use the spot unless you really need it.
  2. Don’t use a van space if you’re not driving a van–the van people really need the space.
  3. Don’t park on the stripey lines next to the van spots–that’s for loading and unloading a wheelchair.
  4. If you see a van with a wheelchair sticker on the side, try not to park near it–it means that’s where the chair loads and unloads.
  5. Don’t put your shopping cart in handicap spaces. Be grateful you can walk and put that baby where it belongs.
  6. Don’t put your shopping cart in the stripey places either.
  7. The disabled person has to be in the car. The tag alone is not enough.
  8. Don’t be upset if a police officer has to see your Disabled ID–that keeps things fair.

I hope this helps! Please add anything I may have forgotten or even disagree with me (nicely) in the comments.boy in wheelchair smiling

Here We Go Again

I thought we were settling into Preschool nicely. I have really loved his teacher and aides–they are genuinely excited and happy when he has a good day and more importantly, they seem to enjoy having him around. I have felt so blessed in that regard. I even get big smiles and happy greetings from random teachers every morning, so in general, I’ve felt warm and fuzzy about this new phase of Charlie’s education.

And then there’s the transportation issue.

When Charlie started preschool, I was taking him and picking him up. Call me crazy, but I actually liked getting a few minutes every day to chat with the teacher and see how things were going. I’m one of those nutty moms who likes to know what’s going on in her three-year-old’s life.

After the first week, we were told that we could no longer park, go to the class, and pick up our kids. We were told that construction would be starting soon and our kids would be “unsafe.” Made perfect sense and I started making arrangements for Charlie to ride the bus. In the mean-time I was instructed to use the regular carpool line with everyone else.

That’s where the problems started to crop up.

You see, Charlie has an issue with over-heating. Basically, leave him in the heat for too long and he starts to “wilt.” He becomes extremely drowsy, lethargic, and glassy-eyed.  Not a great situation, but one that’s pretty easy to keep on top of. I don’t know if it’s related to medication or brain injury, but I’ve found this problem with several other CP kids including one in Charlie’s class.

When I went through the regular carpool line, Charlie was sitting outside for about 45 minutes before I made my way through the line and got him in the car. Not good. The bus should be our other option, but it doesn’t have Air Conditioning. It’s still in the 90s here and an un-air conditioned bus in the afternoon heat is a no-go. I’m also not entirely clear on how long the kids wait around before boarding the bus and rolling out.

So we’re either roasting on the sidewalk or roasting on the bus–not to mention I’m not exactly thrilled about being forced to put my three-year-old on a bus. I do like to see Charlie’s teachers and get a little daily update since he can’t tell me what happened that day.

The teachers quickly figured out a solution–we could park at the handicap spots in the back parking lot and pick up our children. The spots are nowhere near the construction vehicles/materials, and this way our children wait a brief amount of time. We had this plan approved by the Vice Principal and they even made a little sign so the crossing guard will let us in the back.

It’s a beautiful system.

You can imagine my surprise when the crossing guard told me on Thursday that we wouldn’t be allowed in the back any more. Apparently the principal saw us and wasn’t happy. She wants us to use the handicap spots in the front–not the back. You know, the one that’s completely blocked by the carpool line.

Sigh.

I want to be agreeable. I want to be nice. I want people to just use common sense. Charlie has a medical plan that clearly states he’s not supposed to be out in the heat. Why is that so hard to follow? I’m not asking for special treatment so I don’t have to wait in the carpool line. I’m asking for special treatment because my child needs it. I mean, what’s the point of that fancy-dancy medical plan if they can just ignore it?

Tuesday we’ll see what happens. If Charlie sits out in the heat again, there will be meeting (the second since I’ve already met with the principal about transportation). Still trying to figure out what kind of meeting. Sugar and honey? or guns blazing? My Dad suggested calling in the posse of lawyers I call a family and having them come with me to the meeting. I’m pretty sure he was kidding. My husband suggested just calling the principal and asking who her supervisor is. Gah. I hate this stuff. I hate that you have to fight for the right thing when it should be SO obvious. I hate that I have to sit through long talks about shunt failure when my kid looks up at the ceiling a lot, but people think it’s fine to leave him roasting in the sun.I hate that you have to force people to follow the law. I especially hate that.

And he’s three. I mean, how many three-year-olds are riding buses? Going to school for seven hours a day? That’s a lot and besides just following the law, wouldn’t a little compassion be nice? I know, too much to ask for. I need to stop asking and start demanding.  I just wish this stuff were easier.

special needs bus

Bus taking my baby away

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