Peeling the Onion

Louie has been in school for about a month and he has learned so much. He’s learning how to use instruments in music class, he’s learning to walk from one place to another without throwing a big fit, he’s playing with puzzles, and sliding on slides. He is happy and that is probably the best part for me–picking up a little boy who is emotionally intact and at peace.

We had to have a conference for Mr. Louis as well, though. While I know and see that he is happy, he is still throwing a lot–LOT–of tantrums and he scares his teacher almost daily. Twice I’ve had to sign a paper stating that he hit his head on the pavement outside while doing this. He’s fine–no bumps or bruises–but definitely scaring his sweet teacher.

He’s also got some of what I would call “Lost Boy” behavior–stealing food, wandering around during meals, crying when he has to wash his hands, etc. These are, sadly, my fault. My kids share food freely and I’ve made almost no attempt to correct that behavior. My kids are all strapped in during meals to prevent wandering–when you have four, and one with food allergies, you don’t risk things.

We’ve agreed to send in the Psychologist that Early Steps has provided. She works on these very things and was recommended when it became clear that the boys were developing around each other rather than developing along the typical track. Say what you want, twins are never boring. Well, mine aren’t, anyway.

So, we thought we had most things figured out when BAM! another piece of news fell in my lap today. A while back we did a sensory profile for both boys and the daycare teachers filled out out as well. Guess who came back with the most sensory issues? That would be Louie.

Sooooooooo. . . that might be part of the problem at school. And when I think about it, it might explain some of his behavior at home as well. He LOVES to slam things. And bang things. And honestly? That’s just Louie, but maybe it’s also some sensory-seeking behavior.

The OT is going to go to school armed with this new information and hopefully she’ll have some suggestions for them as well.

These kids, man. They are something else.




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  1. Well, please. You wouldn’t want a dull moment, would you?

  2. Hi – As I was reading your blog, I was thinking it sounded like the sensory issues we have been dealing with concerning my oldest son. We just finished four months of weekly therapy and a home brushing therapy that has been awesome. Before, my son could not even tolerate shoes or clothes with tags and going anywhere was a complete meltdown (he’s 3). Now, he happily puts on his shoes and wears his clothes normally and tantrums and meltdowns have decreased considerably. I think the best thing is that we as his parents can read what his body needs better and he himself is more aware about what he needs. He was doing some of the same things that your son is – wandering around aimlessly during activity time, crying at transitions, and his hands were a deal as well, but mine was always saying his were sticky and needed washing. That has stopped as well. Just wanted to encourage you that in the area of sensory issues, early intervention does the best and they believe can even smooth out those processes in the brain that aren’t processing sensory issues correctly. Just want to encourage you since we are on the other side of it and have had great success!

  3. Wow, I wouldn’t have thought Louie had sensory issues, if I had to guess based on what you’ve written in the past. But putting into light what you wrote in this post, it does make sense.

  4. You got your hands full but I know your hands can handle it. You know what I mean, I hope. xoxo

  5. What?! You strap your kids in? He, he. I’m sorry this is on your plate, too—but obviously, good that you figured out the sensory component now. A friend of mine has a child with major sensory issues and it took a long, long time before they knew that was the root of his behavior issues. [virtual hug]

  6. Oh man. He sounds just like my Noah (Autism, ADHD, SPD). I wasn’t sure we’d survive ages 2-5! It does get better. But gees. I read this post tonight and I’m right back there mentally! I still can’t believe that he never escaped or got lost or seriously hurt himself or someone else in preschool. You’re so on the ball with everything. He’s in the best hands. He’ll be fine. (I used to want to smack people when they said that to me… but they were right!).
    And every time one of my kids gets sick and the doctor tells me “make sure they don’t share cups, food, etc…,” I secretly roll my eyes with a “yeah right!” 4 boys under 7… the germs are community property!!! :)

  7. My eldest daughter who appears to be typical has so many sensory issues that it is almost funny. She has helped me with my older son.
    Twins are fun to watch . loving the experience as well. Good with Louise and August.

  8. My daughter too has sensory issues. She threw many, many tantrums her first year at school at age 2. Her blessed teachers just worked her through them. I worked at home on what I could. Slowly, but surely, it got better. My baby is five and a half right now and in first grade (yep, she skipped kindy and is still the highest 1st grader in her school). She has friends, behaves appropriately at school, and often has exhausted tantrums at home afterschool. She cries every day while I comb her hair, but she lets me do it. I guess I’m telling you that it didn’t go away, but it did get a whole lot better. I love your outlook on everything. I wish you peace.

  9. Well, you definitely rock. I love how well you handle things. You inspire me, honestly! It’s glad that you are on to this early, as these things often go years before they are uncovered. Now, Louis can benefit from earlier intervention in this area. Things will get better!