Love Game

graphic reading "Little Joy Map"

When I decided I wanted to write about love for the month of March, I’m not sure I quite knew what I meant. I mean, I know what love IS, but how it would help me or help the kids, well, I wasn’t sure.

But I already printed the list and love is a good thing, so I ordered some books and here I am reading about how to love my kids better.

So far I’ve realized that my love style is “avoider.” This is not one of those love language things–I haven’t gotten to that book yet. This is a different book, and they really hit the nail on the head with me. I am easily overwhelmed by other people’s feelings. When my kids cry, it’s like somebody is twisting my insides. I don’t know if I’ve always been like this–I don’t think so–but definitely after Charlie was born. Even a tiny peep from him and I was convinced he was dying.

So, the first thing I need to work on is letting my children have emotions and acknowledging them. This will be hard for me–I like my kids to be happy and relatively quiet. I don’t want to talk about WHY they’re crying–I just want them to stop.

Clearly I have some work to do, which stinks because I thought this was going to be an easy month!

Other love styles in this book are: Pleaser, Vacillator, Controller, and Victim. I can identify a lot of people in my life on this list. Do you see yourself? What’s your style? What about your kids?

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Comments

  1. How interesting. I’d never thought about parenting LOVE styles. You and yours have really opened my eyes. Now, off to Amazon.

  2. Beautiful and honest. I haven’t read this one, but will check it out. Have you seen this one? http://www.amazon.com/5-Love-Languages-Children/dp/0802403476

    • I have seen it and it’s on my shelf to be read this month! I’m excited to hear all about these love languages people are always talking about.

  3. Rebecca says:

    Oh, my gosh, so glad I visited your blog today! I have been having some problems with my 7 year old daughter lately and, after parent teacher conferences and a fight that ensued when I told her the areas she needs to work on (she says I always ‘focus on the negative’) I realized that something needs to change. She is very sensitive and dramatic and the drama drives me nuts. I feel like I am always telling her to stop acting out — but obviously her feelings are her feelings and I need to learn how to acknowledge them appropriately. Ordering this book now! Thank you!