I wanted to update on loving my kids though. As mentioned in my last post, I am a working on loving my kids this month. Trickier than I thought. I very specifically started working on not saying to my kids, “you’re OK.” Instead, I’m trying to acknowledge what they’re feeling–anger, frustration, pain, etc. I’m certainly not fabulous at it, but I am getting better.
I will tell y’all about a bit of a funny moment, though. The book I’ve been reading about love styles give some specific ideas about how to embrace feeling and teach your children to cope with them. One method is to acknowledge their feelings and then just hold them until they seem to be feeling better. I tried it once with Louie and it went great, so I thought, “I’ve got this!”
Well, the other night Charlie got up at four in the morning and was screaming. I thought he’d had a nightmare or something. So I calmly acknowledged that he was scared and then wrapped my arms around him.
That child pushed me right off and started yelling! Apparently he was not scared–he wanted to watch Lady Gaga videos.
You win some, you lose some, right?