The other day I noticed that a friend of mine had changed his Facebook profile picture to a picture of his daughter. At first glance, I wasn’t sure whose picture it was. Upon further inspection, however, I realized that it’s just a regular kid–one of those crazy neurotypical types–looking a little funny. I thought to myself, “I wouldn’t put that picture up of my child.” Mouth wide open, eyes looking askance–it’s probably a great capture of her personality, but not the most flattering image of her. I consistently try to only put really great pictures of Charlie up on the Internet.
And it got me wondering–am I too worried about appearances? When I put up pictures of Charlie, I try to select only the best. I try to avoid eye crossing, drool, or anything that’s less than flattering.
I wonder if I’m being overly sensitive. I wonder if I’m choosing pictures where he looks less disabled. I hope that’s not it. I feel like I’m completely comfortable with who he is, but maybe not? I don’t know.