The Good News Is

Well, it’s been an emotional week for us here.

I have been sick. Sick, sick, sick, sick, sick. So sick that this social media addict would just lie in bed all day and occasionally check her twitter. Too sick to tweet is not a good place to be.

I had a terrible cough, headaches, the works. Guys came over to install new carpet and didn’t even change out of my pajamas.

I also had a freak-out when I couldn’t find Baby B and took myself to Labor and Delivery. For the record, if you show up at your local, rural hospital’s maternity ward and announce that you’ve got Parvo, they are going to freak the frick out. I’m talking a mask in the waiting room, and an isolation room with a giant fan that I’m pretty sure they’ve never used before–the works. Turns out we were good–Baby B had decide to room with Baby A, so they were both on the same side of my stomach. I think Baby B is going to be a trouble-maker.

I had a lot of people come and help me, which was lovely, but I could take the worst mother of year category. I actually miss Charlie and we’ve both been here all week.

So, today! Appointment! I had my friend Amy come with me in case the news was bad. She’s  a nurse, so she’s good with people and not scared of giant pregnant bellies covered in goop or anything.

So the way it works is, they look at the big artery in the brain–the cerebral middle artery. They look at it, measure the way blood flows through it, and if it’s pumping really hard, that shows that the baby is anemic and it’s heart probably won’t be able to sustain that level for an entire pregnancy. That’s when they have to start doing crazy stuff with giant needles–stuff like blood transfusions in the womb. Stuff that can lead to spontaneous miscarriages. Oy.

So, now that you’ve got the science lesson, here’s the deal: Baby A is incredibly average. This is good. Baby B is high. Not go-run-and-grab-the-giant-needle high, but high enough that the doctor made this appointment on Thursday instead of Friday in case we needed to do a procedure on Friday. Luckily, B stayed in the exact same spot, so we’re not looking at a case of runaway anemia. I am relieved. It’s not a perfect scenario, but it’s one that I’m happy with. I also convinced my doctor to prescribe me some antibiotics, so hopefully this plague will leave my house. See also: high-risk docs are stingy with the drugs.

I still have to go back for weekly ultrasounds until I hit 34 weeks, but I feel good about things. This week was the hardest–the babies weren’t viable, so the options are limited and risky. By next week, I’ll be 24 weeks, which is the beginning of viability.  I surely don’t want them to arrive at 24 weeks, but I’m relieved to see that date on the horizon.

Thank you for all the kind words, encouragement, and cheers this week. It’s been a tough one. We still have a lot of weeks of “checking,” so please don’t take us off your prayer lists, but my heart is lighter. Also, I’ve got tons of Charlie goodness to share, so come back and check on us soon.

boy smiling and looking up at his dad

Fun with Dad

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  1. Paulette says:

    So glad it is good news so far! Very strange that our second pregnancies have had some similarities… Aside from the whole twin thing and all. Prayers headed your way! By the way, are the boys identical?

    • If I had money (and I usually don’t), I’d bet the twins are not identical. They have their own sacs and placentas, so chances are high they are fraternal although only a blood test would be able to say for sure. To me, even on ultrasounds, one looks a little longer and lean and the other is short and fat and their bone structure looks different. So, I think they’re fraternal.

      That was probably more info then you were looking for, huh?

  2. Glad to read that you’re a little less worried. I’m keeping you (all of you) in my list…
    Can’t wait to read Charlie news (I’m in love with that boy, although I never met him).


  3. So relieved for you. I realize that you’re not totally out the woods, but definitely happy that you’re feeling good about all of this. I hope that the rest of your pregnancy is extremely uneventful.

    • Thank you, Cary. I am feeling a lot better about things. The twins are getting wiggly now, so I feel better being able to feel them in there. Also, couldn’t ask for a more diligent doctor.

  4. So glad you are feeling better about things. That makes a world of difference! I will continue praying for all of you as the weeks go on. Love that last picture of Charlie and his Dad – so sweet!

    • Thank you, Dawn. Whenever Dad and Charlie start playing, I run and get the camera. My husband gets the best grins out of that kid!

  5. Glad to hear the good news Katy!

  6. Ugh, the wait until 24 weeks can be excruciating. I don’t know if it’s like that for all pregnancies, or just multiples, but I’m glad you’re almost there. And I really, really hope you don’t have to have any procedures done.

    • I don’t remember being so aware of “viability” in my last pregnancy, so perhaps it is a multiples thing. It could also be a I-know-lots-of-twins-born-early thing. Either way, I do like seeing that number on the horizon.

  7. I am happy to hear that we’re sustaining at this point. No change is good! Hopefully after the weekend you’ll feel better and we can hear all about the Charlie goodness you have for us. :) Here’s to another 10 weeks of pregnancy! :)

    • here, here! Or more than that! I’m all about the current situation. I’d rather not have gotten Parvo in my pregnancy, but I seem to be in good hands and am hoping the babes keep doing what their doing.

  8. Glad to hear good news. Take care and hope you feel better really soon.

  9. I’m thinking about you and those babies! So glad that you’re almost to Viability. Good Luck and Charlie is adorable as always

  10. I was glad to get your email last night, and then even more relieved to read this. I had to get weekly ultrasounds with my Sabrina pregnancy, and while it was a pain it was also very reassuring. Once, I even got one of those 3-D pictures, mainly because a doctors said something awful then felt bad, and it is fascinating to look back at the photo and see how it really does resemble Sabrina.

    On another note, you have to stop beating yourself up for not being able to be there as much as usual for Charlie right now. Worst mother of the year category? Please stop that! You are mom now not just to Charlie, but to two growing babies, and you are doing your absolute best to make sure they are healthy–think of it that way!

    OMG, I am starting to sound like a mother.

    • I know, right? When do we start sounding like that? I think it’s just hard because Charlie is at an age (or stage of development) where he can actually show everyone that he wants to be with Mommy, wants Mommy around, etc. Makes me feel like a jerk when I go lie in bed instead.

      I had a 3D done of Charlie and I swear it’s him–it’s sort of amazing how early-on they start to show those characteristics. I think I’ll like having lots of ultrasounds–it will keep my crazy factor down to a minimum (I hope)

  11. About time for some good news!!! Here’s hoping for a long, uneventful, term rest-of-the-pregnancy for you and the babes. Feel better soon!!

  12. Oh Katy, that is so stressful! Praying for some easy, uneventful weeks… you deserve them. Go put your feet up.

  13. I, too, will be praying for some waaaay less eventful weeks for you, your twins, and the rest of your family. The internets ain’t going nowhere, so take good care of you and yours.

    • Usually the Internet is my escape–this week, didn’t even have the energy for that. Thank you for the prayers.

  14. Oh girl, I’m glad to hear that things are positive and that there is no need for big, scary needles!! I hope you are feeling MUCH better both physically and emotionally… xo

    • I really am–something about it being only 23 weeks really got to me. Plus, for whatever reason, a feeling of calm has come over me. I don’t know if it means anything, but I’m going to take it.

  15. I don’t know any of you but I’m touched by your story – follow you on Twitter. Thanks for sharing your family.

  16. 24 weeks?! You’re almost to the home stretch! Woohoo!

    Here’s wishing you good health (and healthy babies) the rest of the way….

    • Thanks, Lisa–won’t be 24 weeks until Friday, but it’s right there. Hooray! Thank you for the well-wishes.

  17. Good news is GOOD news!!

  18. What a precious picture of Charlie with his daddy – remember that all the resting you’re doing for your 2 tiniest babies’ sake doesn’t make you a bad mother to Charlie – you have to think of all your children now – though I’m sure you miss time with him!!! Praying that you’ll feel better soon & that all will be well with the babies! Oh, how I love ultrasounds – I would love to have one every week!!! :) Praying for you!

    • I love that picture too! I also love ultrasounds, and having a bunch of them will be fantastic for my piece of mind. Hopefully, they’ll all just be a precaution that I don’t need.

  19. breathing a shaky sigh of relief. Keeping you in my prayers. Know they are going to stay until wk 37. They just have too

    • Gayle: I hope they stay in there as long as they need to although I’m worried my body will explode if we really do make it to 37 weeks!

  20. For me. Being pregnant is misery. Sick and pregnant? With twins? I’d lose my mind for sure.

    Good vibes for keeping those boys tucked safely in the womb for several more weeks.

    • I feel terrible complaining about my pregnancies when most of the things I experience are minor, but yeah, this one has been tough. My immune system has really been lowered–I’m guess since there are two babies–and I have caught every cough and cold out there.

  21. I am relived you got some positive news and I will keep my thoughts and prayers focused on things continue going in that direction.

    I know one of the hardest things for me about being a mom of three kids is feeling like I am letting one down because another has graver or more immediate needs. I think we just have to do the best we can, and double back after the crisis and give the one who ended up on the short a little mommy love refresher. Hand in there!

  22. oops! That was hang in there.

  23. you are firmly on my prayers list. so glad to hear the babies are doing well. hang in there, Mama

  24. I just want to apologize for being out of the loop and being a bad friend. But YOU need to stop beating yourself up about Charlie. he is FINE, he is loved and he knows it, and you are a wonderful mommy dealing with a heck of a lot right now.

    I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers—congrats on reaching this milestone–you look FAB!