Well, Stacey was writing about this the other day and then today an episode of Gilmore girls addressed the same topic, so I’m going to write down as much as I can about discipline. I need to be clear–this does not come from disciplining my child, but rather from my experience as a classroom teacher. I’ve taught many ages either as a full-time teacher or as a substitute and I’ve worked with all types of students as well. I can’t promise that these things will work for everyone, but I can say that they’ve worked for me and I learned from some of the best.
- Don’t discuss something while you’re administering discipline. It’s a transaction–you need to complete it and keep going. If you spend time talking about it, examining what happened, etc. then you are awarding them with attention. These kinds of things can happen after, but not at the time of a problem.
- Eye contact is huge. If your child is begging you for something then say no and look away–this effectively ends the conversation.
- If you do lose your cool and yell and scream then make it a point not to hold a grudge. Move on. Your children need to know that they are loved above all.
I feel like a complete ass writing about discipline, but this stuff has worked for me time and time again, and maybe there’s something in here for someone else. Please ignore me if you need to!
But. . . if I didn’t do a good job at explaining then please leave me a question–I’ll answer as best I can.